They Say What They Say

Is there such a thing as being too independent? I'm beginning to think there is. And I'm starting to wonder if I am, indeed, too independent. This morning, for instance, I was taking my bike up the escalator at Flinders Street Station. I've done it a thousand times and really don't need any help, but this guy asked anyway and I very firmly said thanks but no thanks. I was fine. Later it occurred to me that what harm would it have done to let him help? He would have felt good about doing something nice for someone and I would have given him the opportunity to feel that way. But no, I have to go and do it all by myself. I wrap myself up in this little bubble of independence, not allowing myself to rely on anyone and possibly losing out because of it. I justify it buy saying I don't want to inconvenience people, but how hard is it to let people help out sometimes? I need to get better at accepting help. I really do.

Is there such a thing as being too independent? I'm beginning to think there is. And I'm starting to wonder if I am, indeed, too independent. This morning, for instance, I was taking my bike up the escalator at Flinders Street Station. I've done it a thousand times and really don't need any help, but this guy asked anyway and I very firmly said thanks but no thanks. I was fine. Later it occurred to me that what harm would it have done to let him help? He would have felt good about doing something nice for someone and I would have given him the opportunity to feel that way. But no, I have to go and do it all by myself. I wrap myself up in this little bubble of independence, not allowing myself to rely on anyone and possibly losing out because of it. I justify it buy saying I don't want to inconvenience people, but how hard is it to let people help out sometimes? I need to get better at accepting help. I really do.